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 | QUOTE (ANIMAL333 @ May 12 2008, 04:34 PM) | | My girlfriend is wanting me to start training her 3 days a week. She's looking to "tone up" a bit and lose some bodyfat. I was thinking about putting her on a full body routine 3 days a week, with cardio done post-workout for 20-30 minutes. Any suggestions? |
This response got a lot longer than I originally hoped, but bear with me here...
I would just get her a personal trainer. The whole boyfriend/girlfriend workout thing doesn't work for either party. She doesn't want to train like you and you're probably going to push her too hard and make her uncomfortable. Then you'll both wind up frustrated and in strife.
Whereas if you get a trainer who's used to those initial obstacles and is able to deal with them, she could get to her own comfort level first and then maybe transition to training under you. I think training a woman in the gym is far more psychological than it is physical. We go to the gym to smash weights and that's it. It's very easy. For them it's completely different and there's a lot more there than that.
Whether they're pussies or sissys or right or wrong is irrelevant. Her needs at the gym are very different from yours. A trainer with female experience is going to be extremely productive.
------------------------------- That being said, my gf and I train together. She does it all....front squats, dead lifts, cleans, good mornings, push-presses, everything I do. But it took a lot of time and work to get her to that point where she feels comfortable enough to try new exercises and can begin to realize her own strength.
You can't push a girl like you push a guy. It's a huge amount of pyschological work in terms of postive re-enforcement and keeping things fresh and new. If you're criticizing her or berating her, she's going to get uncomfortable and quit. Lots of times I just let her do the exercise wrong until she gets it right on her own. Women have an almost instinctive fear of failure, looking silly, and self-doubt. So you really gotta watch your words and not alienate her. You're still her boyfriend even when you're working out together, and she's going to need you to be a supportive there when training. Treat her like a dude and she's gonna walk.
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